Oh boy, let’s get personal on this one. Single people are often on the hot chair for the sin of being single. Friends will ask questions repeatedly to the point where single people already have a list of answers prepared.
“When are you going to have a girlfriend?”
Parents, close friends, down to acquaintances. They all know what you are not up to and it feels like they’re secretly talking about your nonexistent love life without your knowledge.
It’s worse when a close friend sits with you and, in a hushed voice, would ask, “what’s taking you so long?” as if you know the answer.
Friends and acquaintances from high school or university are easier to ward off with a simple “I don’t know,” followed by a laugh or smile (depending on your closeness).
“I think something’s wrong with you, is there something wrong with you?”
Maybe yes, maybe no, maybe shut up.
“Aren’t you lonely?”
photo credit: Ding Yuin Shan
Being alone does not always mean lonely. Sure, it gets lonely sometimes, but for people like me who find peace in solitude, being alone is a lovely lifestyle. We can, without thinking twice, go out on an adventure, have fun all night with friends, and many more single activities.
Of course it gets lonely sometimes. This question shouldn’t even be asked. It’s a given.
“You haven’t moved on from her yet?”
Followed by “because if you have, then by now you should have a girlfriend!”
This is mostly asked by not-so-close friends or acquaintances. And they won’t believe you if you say that you, in fact, have moved on. But close friends will believe you because they are the reason why you’re doing fine and well past the heartache.
Being single doesn’t mean you haven’t moved on yet from your past relationship. It could mean you’re just taking your sweet sweet time in order to make things better for your next relationship.
“Maybe you should lower your standards?”
Almost everyone has a checklist, but let’s face it, out of ten items only five will be checked for any given person. Maybe seven, and that’s as perfect as it can get. But love is a weird thing which is not governed by a checklist.
It’s when your list falls apart, when you start making exemptions, that’s when you know that you’ve fallen quite hard. When everything in your list becomes stupid and you’ll reason against them.
What about you? What are the things that you’re tired of hearing?
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