Being in a long-distance relationship is never easy. Even if you are trying to make everything work, despite the distance and the crazy timezones, there are elements outside your relationship that makes it even more difficult for both you and your partner.
One of these elements are people’s reaction. You may have heard some friends or family who told you that it’s not gonna work and you have to find someone else because you’re still young and you have a great life ahead of you.
These words are sometimes hurtful though, because despite your efforts to preserve a relationship that transcends distance and timezones, people still don’t believe you can work it out.
Don’t worry though, you’re not the only one who are sick of things people say just because you’re in an LDR. I have collected some things people in LDRs are sick of hearing.
If you are not in a long distance relationship and you’re reading this, but you have friends who are, please don’t say these things to them.
Don’t You Feel Lonely?
Ah, yes! The ever curious question of loneliness. Most people think that if you are in a long-distance relationship, you always feel alone and lonely. But honestly, from a person who has been in a long-distance relationship for a really long time now, the answer is never.
Being in an LDR has made me realize that I have a life outside our relationship. Because of the distance that seems to separate us, we have become mature enough to realize that a relationship can never last if you limit yourself to your partner. That is why we have encouraged ourselves to spend more time with other people we care about.
Aren’t You Afraid Your Partner Might Cheat?
As a matter of fact, I am. Cheating is one of the many dangers on being in an LDR because, let’s face it, we all need human interaction once in a while but it’s also a danger in non-LDR relationships. I’m afraid that my partner might cheat on me but so is everybody else. However, we don’t let that be the topic of our discussions. We don’t sow distrust in our hearts.
Maybe that is one of the main reasons why communication is important in any LDR, nay any relationship. To let the both of you know that you still trust each other.
Distance is Hard
Yes it is, and we both know that. We know that we’re miles, seas and time zones apart but we also know that it’s nothing because we love each other so much. We’ll make it work.
Because love doesn’t give up that easy, right?
You surely must fight a lot
At times, we have misunderstandings like any other relationship but contrary to popular belief, we don’t fight much. Our conversations usually entail the both of us looking at our monitors while we brush our teeth and tell how our days were. Honestly, the only time we scream at each other is when the we think the speaker is not loud enough.
Oh, that sucks
We’ve seen your eyes guys. That look of pity as if we’re lonely idiots trying to make it rain in the middle of the drought. You must think being in an LDR is a bad thing but honestly, we think we’re still a better couple than most relationships out there.
It won’t work out, trust me
This is the most common thing people say about LDRs. I won’t totally rebuke that because it has good points. However, every long distance couple like us knows that already. We know for a fact that the chances of our relationships ending badly are high but we still don’t care because we’re cherishing every moment we have with each other.