Being alone sucks. Well at least what popular thinking believes. When you say you like being by yourself, people automatically think that you might be going through some rough stuff, or maybe you’re depressed or simply because you’re going nuts.
But honestly, from the standpoint of someone who has gone from a person who was naturally dependent on others to a person who loves being alone, it’s not as bad at it seems. In my experience, there are things that you discover about being alone that you just can never learn from being always with someone.
I’m not saying that you should lock yourself up in your room and never go out ever. No. What I’m trying to point out here is that there are things you will realize once you give yourself some time to be in solitude.
Let’s get to them:
You’ll feel renewed
When you are constantly with friends or colleagues, it cannot be helped that you go drained out. You constantly try to keep others on their mood, try to make them laugh, boost their morale and understand their feelings. And I tell you: that is exhausting.
If you’re constantly talking to people, you get little time to recharge and take a break from all of these emotionally, socially, mentally and sometimes physically tiring activities.
You get more time reflecting
Because of other people, your mind will go at blazing speeds, trying to process everything that’s been happening. Your friend is getting engaged so you need to be happy for them. Another friend, on the other hand, got left at the altar so you need to feel sorry about that. With all of these things happening at almost the same time, you have no time at all to even think about your own life.
But being alone gives you the chance to reflect. No people nagging you to hear their story, no one to lean on your shoulders all night. Since you are spending time by your lonesome, you’ll get to re-think how your life goes and focus in it. In that way, you become a better person because you’re giving yourself a chance to really put some thought on your life and your future.
Remember that sometimes, being alone lets you talk to yourself and know how your day really was.
You get to do things you really enjoy
When you’re always with people, you end up trying to compromise just to fit in. And at some points, this compromise leads you to sacrificing what you really want to do for what others want to do.
Unfortunately, this gets tiring in the long run. Because you don’t get to do what you want to do, you feel like being shackled. You can’t show your real self and you end up becoming anhedonic.
But guess what, now that you are alone, you can do whatever you enjoy. For the first time in such a long while, you can go on a convention without worrying if others will like it. Doing this will give you more freedom and be able to show yourself a little more.
You’ll get work done
Yes, being with other people can be fun and relaxing but overly doing it could hamper your productivity. Sometimes other people become a distraction than inspiration.
So, one of the things you’ll like while being by yourself is the ability to be more focused at work because with no one to bother you, you actually get something finished.
You’ll be able to savor relationships better
Remember the time when you haven’t had ice cream for a while and when you finally had, it was awesome?
Well, this is similar in a lot of ways with your ice cream craving. When you enjoy being alone, you’ll realize that with all the time you spent trying to understand and appreciate yourself, you begin to open up and be more confident. That way, you become more appreciative of relationships. You’ll also learn to value the little things you miss when you were by yourself and begin to value them more.
For nothing is ever considered valuable until people realize how much anything really is worth when it is gone.