It’s okay. Giving up on things that no longer make you happy is not a sign of weakness, nor a sign of strength. It just is. When you give up because you are no longer happy you are doing yourself a great favor. That’s the first step to reclaiming your happiness.
Whether it’s friendship or romantic kind of relationship there are three things you need to keep in mind when investing your life on people: time, effort, and your feelings. Everyone invests these three things on every relationship they make, but not everyone knows how to invest them smartly.
This post will totally sound utilitarian, and trust me it is only so because we’re talking about it. In reality, no one should talk about how the machinations of relationships work. No one. That’s a taboo.
Imagine standing in the middle of an escalator. Above you is a place of safety. Below you is a cliff. The escalator is constantly moving down and you’re doing just enough to stay far from the cliff where it could mean death. One step at a time you move up, slowly, because you are already tired. But with every step you are also dragged down. You’ve been doing the same thing for several months now, maybe even years. And your goal now is to just stay alive.